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Jack said in July 22nd, 2008 at 3:35 am

Are they sitting Shiva?

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Winter said in July 22nd, 2008 at 9:55 am

There was some type of funeral at my work on Friday that was unusual. I think the people were from India or Pakistan. I mean the way they dressed sort of indicated it. However, half the people were white (even though dressed in the native garb) and even weirder… everyone was dressed in SNOW WHITE. White everything.

I know funerals are different these days. I mean, I thought I’d seen pretty much everything that comes through the door of a mortuary. Well, we don’t get Jewish funerals much because there’s another mortuary that caters to full blown Jewish services. At any rate, I’ve seen people wear all sorts of things to funeral. But I’ve never seen every single attendee in white. It was odd… but uplifting.

I have a viewing to go to on Wednesday for my co-worker’s husband. No funeral service. Just a private viewing, then a public one, then a lunch reception put on by my department. After that, they are having a private graveside service at the local National cemetery since he was a Vet.

This is the second one of these I’ve been to in my department in 9 years. The woman I work most closely with lost her husband suddenly two years ago. Then my boss lost his father. We’ve lost employees from other departments. Every funeral is different, and each is sad in its own way. The ones that are the best, are the ones that celebrate life. Like the one for the customer that had surfboards everywhere and played Beach Boys music and people came dressed in Hawaiian shirts and flip flops. It was the most awesome funeral I had ever seen.

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mandy said in July 23rd, 2008 at 6:44 pm

That was so interesting about the difference between a Jewish Funeral and a Chirstain one – its so refreshing to read something like this and the author not try to tell the readers how “wrong” the other “view/way/philosophy/etc” is.

PS (linked you from the costco metamucil post!!)

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shiny said in July 24th, 2008 at 10:24 am

Jack: In a way, yes. Of course they don’t have any traditions stating to mourn for specifically seven days as we do in Judaism. But apparently there’s a hell of a lot of food at their house. So it’s kind of the same. 🙂

Winter: I guess it’s one of the fascinating things about your job — you get to see how people mourn and/or celebrate life in such a variety of different ways. I had never attended an open-casket funeral before, for example. The emotions as people walked past the deceased were interesting to watch. It was pure anguish for many (as it is in many funeral services). But the way that they celebrated this woman’s life, too, was memorable.

mandy: Thanks. 🙂 I try to keep an open mind about these things.

(And just so you know — I don’t have a Google alert trip as soon as I see a blog which mentions Metamucil. (Although how cool would that be?) I just happened to stumble on Diana’s blog after friending her on Facebook. I used to work with her when we were students at U of MD over a decade ago.)

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hello haha narf said in July 26th, 2008 at 8:17 pm

i am so glad that you were the one from the office to go.

and from experience, i can pretty much guarantee that it meant a lot to your coworker that you showed up. especially in a suit.

mom was cremated so we had a memorial service where everyone was encouraged to wear purple. (her favorite color…due to that poem “when i am an old woman i shall wear purple” that is a family favorite. ) i love what winter was saying about everyone wearing white. a lot of people wore white when my gram died because we were trying to focus on the celebration of no pain and the afterlife instead of wearing black and focusing on our loss.

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