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Neil said in May 6th, 2008 at 12:29 am

I’m actually surprised when you meet a blogger who is socialized. I mean what NORMAL person writes about his life every day to an unseen public? Even those bloggers considered cool were probably social outcasts in school. As people go, bloggers are usually some of the friendliest ones around. Sorry I missed meeting you!

Neils last blog post..The Pure Imagination of the Golden Ticket

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othurme said in May 6th, 2008 at 12:45 am

You just described a mild version of me.

othurmes last blog post..Strange, Strange Sunday

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Winter said in May 6th, 2008 at 12:45 am

It’s funny that I came here and read this after deciding to spend my Tuesday post talking about some home truths about myself. I rather doubt after my 6K word burnout yesterday that I will be as coherent as you were here. One of these days, I’d really like to meet you. I do love rock stars after all. 😉

Winters last blog post..Hungover Marcus Monday

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Hilly said in May 6th, 2008 at 12:58 am

I’m not an introvert at all, nor am I shy…you may have picked up on that. However one thing I do know is that most of my favorite people are that way.

The thing about you is that you were yourself and you took us all by storm just being that way. I can’t speak for others although I suspect they feel the same to some level, but I adore you and am glad you came out of the shell a little bit so that I could see that creamy inside stuff. 🙂

So thank you for being you.

Hillys last blog post..Lovestoned

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hello haha narf said in May 6th, 2008 at 1:17 am

my dear, dear shiny. we love you. yes, you. the ingelligent and kind and wicked funny and all around nice guy shiny. i can’t tell you how thankful i am that you decided to challenge yourself by making the drive (in all that fucking traffic!) to philly.

also? i’m totally proud of you. while i am all about walking into a room and taking over, it is simply a way to deal with my own “oh shit, what if they don’t like me” moments. you may clam up, i go balls to the wall. just know that everyone is on some level insecure about what others think of them. don’t ever let anyone tell you that they aren’t. please know that at least one person is terribly proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone.

you are a rock star. and i just love you. don’t ever stop being yourself. because yourself is wonderful.


p.s. hilly stole most of what i was going to say. she’s so lucky that i simply adore her.

hello haha narfs last blog post..Internet Friends, Now With Skin On

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jester said in May 6th, 2008 at 1:36 am

Where you get shy and introverted, I get loud and overly friendly.

You may have noticed.

Hope you make it next year. I’ll be there this time. I swear.

jesters last blog post..Aah, Irony

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Karl said in May 6th, 2008 at 2:17 am

Man, I can relate more than you possibly know. I’m a total introvert and use humor to try to fit in and be accepted. Like you said, very eloquently I might add, sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn’t.

I hope what you got out of this weekend most of all is a sense that EVERYONE is accepted at TequilaCon. It’s designed to be that way, with the lanyards and the buttons and the swag (and the booze). I feel terrified and amazingly comfortable all at the same time.

Thanks for posting this. You rock, dude.

Karls last blog post..The TequilaCon Recap to End ALL TequilaCon Recaps

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Mr. Fabulous said in May 6th, 2008 at 5:38 am

I missed that “guys I would go gay for” post. I hope I was one of them…

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Mattie said in May 6th, 2008 at 6:42 am

I did not know if TC was by invitation only or not. Even if I had known, my social ineptness probably would have kept me from going. But, I think that next year, depending on where it is because I just don’t fly since 9/11, I will be attending.

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Sarah said in May 6th, 2008 at 7:39 am


And I’m grateful you were brave enough to come over to where I sat glued to my chair and hang out with us. And share your precious tots! 🙂

It was so nice meeting you!

P.S. that “commentLuv” feature is so freaking cool!

Sarahs last blog post..TequilaCon’08 Hangover: Regrets

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Avitable said in May 6th, 2008 at 8:00 am

So that’s why you misheard me when I said “Get the fuck away from me, I don’t want to talk to you” as “Hi, how’s it going?”


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NYCWD said in May 6th, 2008 at 9:01 am

I have a tendency more towards being an introvert myself… especially around people I don’t know. Which is why TequilaCon was somewhat unique… because even though I hadn’t met any of the people there… it already felt like I knew them.

To be honest… I never pegged you as an introvert and really had no idea… so for that matter… I think you were a smashing success for challenging yourself that way and overcoming it so seamlessly… and for that, as well as just being a downright awesome guy, I congratulate you.

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Miss Britt said in May 6th, 2008 at 9:41 am

The best part of the weekend for me was seeing so many people stretch outside of their comfort zones. It was really, really amazing to watch.

Miss Britts last blog post..Miss Britt Goes To TequilaCon: A Photo Essay

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Finn said in May 6th, 2008 at 10:57 am

It always takes me a while to warm up to people for the same reasons… leftovers from being painfully shy as a kid.

I’m so glad you stepped out of your comfort zone (I would have never guessed it was a challenge for you — you were awesome). I loved chatting with you and look forward to getting to know you better.

Finns last blog post..OMG

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bubblewench said in May 6th, 2008 at 12:25 pm

I KNEW I liked you.. that is how I felt too. I knew no one besides my husband and Aviatable, and I barely know him… Glad I got to meet you in person, sorry I didn’t get us both out of our shells a little more…

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Kyra said in May 6th, 2008 at 3:35 pm

I’m horribly shy in person too. AND I’m really good at sticking my feet in my mouth, and I am the one they whisper WTF?!??! about when I leave. I keep screwing up, so I’m working on embracing my stupidity instead. I hope to make it to the next gathering to really stick my feet in my mouth and be gossiped about.

Kyras last blog post..Feathers

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shiny said in May 6th, 2008 at 10:43 pm

Neil: I hope we get the chance to meet sometime soon. And, of course, usher in the festivities with a Parshat HaShavua recap…

othurme: … which is why I really hope to meet you at one of these in the future as well. Or maybe something smaller. Either way.

Winter: I don’t quite have the Nikki Sixx hair or tattoos, I’m afraid. But yes — looking forward to meeting you as well. I think this aspect of our personalities is shared by many.

Hilly: Thank you for handling the creamy center with care. I’m so glad I took that step.

NarfTastic: You certainly have the wall-balls thing going for you 🙂 Thanks again for everything, and I adore you as well.

Jester: I have noticed. And I’m looking forward to hanging with you.

Karl: I suppose this is good a time as any to tell you that I loved your t-shirt. It served a purpose — like the lanyards and buttons. It helped people open up. And yes — the people were an integral part of it as well.

Fabby: Sorry to inform you that you didn’t make the Top 9. But you made a good showing at number 18 — smack dab between Chris Hansen from Dateline NBC and the fat guy from Lost.

Mattie: I was concerned about whether or not it was by invitation only. I mean, it wasn’t — anyone could come. But I was questioning whether or not I would feel welcome as a new blogger to the community. Many thanks to Jenny of RunJenRun who made me feel at home when I requested more info.

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shiny said in May 6th, 2008 at 11:05 pm

Sarah: Sharing the tots was just a mechanism to get you all talking with me 😉 Seriously, it was great meeting you as well. And yes — while some folks are more comfortable moving around from conversation to conversation, I enjoyed what we had in a more static environment.

(And yeah – CommentLuv rocks.)

Avitable: Like I said — hard of hearing. You should have slapped the shit out of me or something…

NYCWD: You, too, are downright awesome. And you’re right — the environment and people made this a place far more comfortable than most.

Miss Britt: I certainly did.

Finn: Likewise. And I think I did warm up after a while as well. It’s the jumping in point which gets scary.

BubbleWench: I’m glad we met, even if briefly. Next time perhaps…

Kyra: So you know how I feel all the time… 🙂

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Turnbaby said in May 7th, 2008 at 9:22 am

I thought I left a comment on this but obviously….

You know what? I have two favorite things about TC08—one is Hilly getting to go when she didn’t think she’d be able to—the other is having a small part in hooking you up with this crew. It makes me all smiley;-)

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SJ said in May 8th, 2008 at 5:33 am

From everything I’m reading, I’d say you succeeded beyond your wildest dreams. Congratulations on that victory over your insecurities. That’s definitely something to be proud of.

I’ve yet to make it to a TequilaCon, but feeling like I don’t fit in is what I fear most about going next year. Mostly because I worry that people are only *pretending* to like me, and really wish I’d just disappear.

SJs last blog post..Shadow

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shiny said in May 9th, 2008 at 10:58 pm

Turnbaby: I’m glad on both accounts. You should know, however, that it was far more than just a small part in getting me together with this crew. Thank you so much. (And I’m looking forward to meeting you two sometime soon as well…)

SJ: I have the same worry — I have for quite a while. One of my big insecurities remains people possibly patronizing me and talking to me as if they think I’m smart while, in all reality, they feel that I’m dumber than a box of nails. It’s an irrational fear, I know. But it still creeps up on me from time to time.

I challenge you to do this next year. If I can do it, so can you. 🙂

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